A Woman's Bond

So, this is so outside of myself but last Sunday after church I bonded with my boyfriend's younger sister watching Beyonce's "Life is but a Dream" documentary. I'm not apart of the Bey-hive but I was curious to see this HBO special. I can say that I have grown more respect for this woman. This post is not going to be about the documentary, more so something that stuck out to me. At one point of the documentary, Beyonce spoke of her mother owning a hair salon in their household and how she used to bond with the customers by opening and talking. She stated, talking to her husband is great but there is nothing like speaking to a woman and bonding with her spiritually and being able to just share things. I definitely agree with that.


Women out there who pride themselves on having all male friends because women are so drama filled have never experienced a serious feminine bond. Seriously. To me, it doesn't matter if you have had trouble in the past with trusting women or have been let down by them; that is just people in general. Gender is not a factor. You learn and move forward. You attract what you are, those individuals were in your life with purpose and maybe it was to place a lesson in your life. It happened to me at a young age but I still kept faith that I would have better friends in my life.

Growing up, I was a major tomboy and my female friends that were in my life were feminine and boy crazy and such. I hung around all of their crushes or boyfriends and kept my head in the books. Kept my crushes to myself because I feared rejection. In middle school I was betrayed by my two closest friends at the time and it took me a long time to trust girls again. If I did hang with a girl it was mainly a singular thing, never two or more. When I got to college, I decided enough was enough. I was tired of just being "one of the guys" with that one female BFF. I wanted a circle again that I could confide in.

Ladies of Excellence NCA&TSU

LOE Black and Silver Ball

I used to run a business organization for women on campus but it was mainly business relationships built through mentoring, not really on a personal level. I loved all of the girls just the same though. I tried to follow up on my interest with sorority life but that just wasn't for me so I allowed it to happened naturally. I wen to a yoga session on a whim and met a beautiful sister named Paris and she invited me to a sisterhood meeting where we would meditate and bond over food. That initial night was cool and the following meeting was great because I met some of the most amazing individuals I know and cherish.

The early days of "The Sisterhood"

Officially Ashore at our friend Jessica's wedding two summers ago.

First Annual Loving the Crew Weekend in Atlanta!

 Long story short, we have gone through ups and downs, social and political differences, and a lot of vegetarian pizzas. We have connected spiritually, personally, have had one-on-one talks, and shared secret and not-so-secret moments. Cried together, laughed together, and shared feminine energy. I wouldn't trade the anything for them. Shout out to Ashore! Even though we are all in different states and doing our own thing we still connect and try to have an annual retreat during the cusp of the Cancer/Leo season where we catch up, bond, and build all over again. I am blessed to have them.